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It won’t be too bad will it?

In life we have so many decisions to make. When we are young, they are often insignificant, and won’t have an impact on our future, but as we get older we have to thinks carefully about these life changing choices.

Everything in life is a jigsaw isn’t it? Each part of our life fits together to make one big picture. Ourselves, relationships, work, money and health. Without one part our life isn’t complete.

How do you then make a decision to change one part of it, which will have a big impact on another? And how will you know if you are making the right decision?

My youngest son and his girlfriend both have long commutes to work. 3 hours each day for my son, not quite so long for his girlfriend. He works long hours, and often isn’t home before 8 o’clock, she works shifts often finishing work at 11pm. He now wants to move nearer to his work, and nearer to his girlfriend’s place of work too.  And although the rent will be marginally more, financially they will be better off taking into account travel expenses and other expenses of gyms etc.

The dilemma then is that they will be a distance away then from our loving family, and his friends. They are a doting uncle and aunty, and both have a great relationship with his brother and sister in law. They have movie nights, and princess parties. He is really close to us as parents and his grandfather, and often pops in at least once a week even if it’s for ½ hour, or to watch a football match with his dad. I’ve often gone to the gym with them for a swim and a sauna.

What they will gain on one hand they will lose on the other.

Everyone’s life changes, it very rarely stays the same. Perhaps now is the time to look at quality time and not quantity time?

It will be an opportunity for us to visit them every so often, they won’t be on the other end of the world, its 25 miles away, that is a 1 ½ hr in South London traffic. That’s not so bad?  His friends would love the opportunity to meet in central London for a drink I’m sure? They can stay on weekends for family get together? I know her mum would love the opportunity to stay in London and all the shops?

It won’t be so bad will it – if they decide to move?  

Who am I trying to kid…


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2 thoughts on “It won’t be too bad will it?

  1. I really understand how you feel. Both grandsons had been in walking distance from us since birth. One little family moved 90 minutes away three years ago and the very prospect filled me with dread. Then last year the others moved a similar distance in another direction and, inwardly, I felt the world was coming to an end. All my energy was put into hiding my feelings and telling myself the moves were best for them for the same work-related/travel reasons as with your sons. I can’t say I wouldn’t prefer that things were otherwise, but you do get used to the ‘new normal’ and it’s not nearly as bad as first anticipated.

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    • The decision is made. My other son said something very profound today. It’s an amazing flat, penthouse, outside space, extra bedroom, shower for Ben, bath for Trellun. Access to a gym, and a bookable cinema room with a parking space in London.. No point in moving to a bog standard place!!!!!
      It will be ok x

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