Families, Family, Inspiration, real life, social media, Uncategorized, Whatever, women, Writing

Exile from social media….what have I missed?

Its been 11 days since I decided that I would take myself away from social media. I’d read this blog and it has inspired me.

Unplugging and Reinventing

So I signed off from Facebook, my Instagram and Twitter account went cold.  I realised that these things were taking over my life. As soon as I woke up, before I had even put my feet out of bed, I was on my phone scrolling through ‘social media life’ and what had happened while I had been asleep. Every spare minute I was catching up with the life of others, where they had been, what they had eaten, what they were wearing, and who was celebrating a birthday or a friendship!  All the time neglecting my own life. Neglecting my blog and the other more important things – like talking to my long suffering husband. Cuddling my grand children.

At first it felt weird. I kept thinking ‘what is so and so doing?’ and then gradually as the time has gone on that feeling of missing out has diminished. Of course I still get the notifications when I log onto my computer, but I don’t follow the link back into the twisted world of Facebook. It was todays notification that prompted me to write this blog.  Apparently I have 90 notification and I had been tagged in 5 pictures. I know it doesn’t sound very much to some people, who get hundreds and hundreds a day, but its quite a lot for me.

Do you know what I miss the most? Seeing the pictures of my grandchildren that are posted by my daughter in law! I also missed two events that friends had arranged I had forgotten to put on my calendar. There is an awful lot I don’t miss. The sometimes boring lives of others who endlessly post about their pets, the weather, who has parked over their drive, cakes, and what their favourite celebrity is doing. And I’m sure there is a lot that others miss about me…or not!

I have about 4 weeks left of my exile. I know it will teach me something. Remove things that don’t enrich my life. Don’t bother to follow pages that are a fad, or if I do as soon as I fall out of love with those pages – un-follow them. Simple.

Social media in one form or another has a place in anyone’s life, but not as a replacement for real life and communication.

See you on the other side.

 

 

 

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Domestic Goddess, Family, Inspiration, Laughter, real life, Uncategorized, Whatever, women

Show us your bra!

How un-lady-like I hear you say. Not if you are part of the WI – the Woman’s Institute.

They will tell you its not about Jam and Jerusalem. They have spectacularly brought themselves into the 21st century in a very big way. Their web site and media is second to none. They make sure that each group is supported, and they promote good causes and raise money for charities. Each year they choose a good case to lobby parliament on. Its  a way of like minded women to get together, and support one another in any way they can.

The  Maple Village WI. This is the web site for my local WI, a fun group of women- who meet in the local pub. And its this group together with many other groups across the UK who have been stripping off their bras, and filling them with bright coloured flowers and hanging them around the country.

And the flowers can be sponsored by an organisation or a company.

The Skye High Foundation will make sure the lovely bra it has sponsored will be watered, and cherished!

maple village 1

 

 

 

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Family, loss, real life, Uncategorized

A bitter sweet moment

The time when something good happens, only to have it whipped away and your heart is broken. When time stands still and the rollercoaster of your emotions take your breath away. When sadness is all you feel but you know you have to carry on for the life in front of you. The life so fragile you are afraid to pour on the love you feel in case it too is taken away.

This bitter sweet life is feisty and powerful. She will not give in, and kicks and cries at each beep and movement. She is loved over, cooed over, touched and whispered to.

Her long and elegant fingers stretching out for human touch, tiny hands grasp around your finger to tell you to be strong for her, for she is a fighter and each day will remember the time she shared the space with someone who couldn’t stay.

A little life who left too soon. Was here and then gone in the blink of an eye. But when she left took a part of your heart. You have the memory, the smell of the soft porcelain skin on her blanket and the pictures on your phone.

And the knowledge she will be loved as much as the feisty fighter who will carry the love forward.

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Life isn’t written in draft.

Lots of things in life start off as a draft. The email we write, we change words, add extra bits to it. Make it sound more eloquent, understanding – easy to read. How often do we send it out after the first go? Or the text we want to send, if we have a spell checker on, it tells us we need to change a word so it is correct.

The simple cake we make, we put embellishments of icing on, add extra glitzy balls, or tiny flowers. That simple cheese sandwich just needs an extra squirt of mayo, we want it to be the best it can be.

If only all of life was so simple! We can’t often take back that nasty word or that argument over something stupid. What a shame it can’t be previewed like the draft of a blog!

Such a shame. Life would be less painful if we could don’t you think?

 

 

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Inspiration, real life, Whatever, Writing

When you get your mojo back

I’ve been away. Not literally away, but figuratively speaking. I haven’t posted anything for a good few months. I’m sure some of you know just what that is like, some times you need the headspace to be able to find the words to write. Sometimes you just don’t have the inspiration.  I just haven’t been in the right place to put pen to paper…or get typing.

But now I feel ready again. Lots of things have happened to me – and my family while I’ve been away, I wont bore you with them. I’ll start afresh, and see where my imagination and of course real life  takes me.

 

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I promise you will be amazed.

Do you often watch too much reality tv or too many films, and finally when you have eaten your very last bit of pizza  and drunk your last drop of wine or coffee you face the world – and feel that your life is a little….surreal.

When you step out of your front door into ‘real world’ you wonder why people look different. Some peoples hair is just too long, too short, too untidy or too tidy. Not everyone has that perfect skin or that lovely figure you have been used to on the tv. Its because ‘normal’ isn’t airbrushed and glamorous with high end clothes. Look down at yourself or at a partner or friend –  stand in front of a mirror. These are the things that are normal! In all your amazing glory, lumps and bumps. Grey bits or bald bits.

Be proud of your self, you wear your life on that lovely face and body. Each lesson learned is a fine line, each laugh and joke you have shared is a dimple and each grey hair is a late night phone call from someone to go and rescue them!

I accept myself – most of the time. As you grow older you become more accepting. And more importantly I live with reality!

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Food, Inspiration, Laughter, real life, Whatever, Writing

Good evening – and welcome.

I know this will be the first of many conversations we will have, I hope someone out in reality land will be reading this blog..I’m not in the habit of talking to myself!

Don’t expect a literary masterpiece. Well, not in the first few weeks till I get warmed up at least.

I love food, the healthy stuff, the 5 a day good old regular stuff. Sprinkled with some guilt inducing naughtiness. I love fashion, words of wisdom, animals – so pop along see what I can come up.

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